It’s no secret that unsolicited dick pics have plagued girls since the dawn of online dating.

But now, a new trend has emerged where a small group of Singaporean guys are searching up random Telegram users and sending pictures of their weiners to them.

Sending random Telegram users surprise dick pics

On a recent night out with my friends, Hannah Tan, 24, showed our group some seriously NSFW pics she had received from strangers.

Hannah received her first dick pic in October 2018. She began receiving unsolicited saucisson images at a frequency of once every two months.

Apparently, she “always kena” because she has “a commonly searched name and surname”.

She added there are two types of guys—those who send pictures of their dicks sans small talk, and those who preface with a “hello, can I ask you smth?”.

“After the second dick pic, I got fed up and asked the guy how he found me. He explained he will randomly search a name, and look at the profile pic before sending out the dick pics, so he knows he is sending pictures to a girl and not a guy.”

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Responding to dick pics

Among women, it can be agreed that receiving unwanted images of a stranger’s ding-a-ling evokes disgust, shame, and distress.

Hannah felt “shocked and traumatised”, and compared receiving such pictures not unlike getting “a slap to the face to the point [she] felt like crying”. To cope with these feelings, she laughed it off and tried to make light of it.

As to why some choose to be the internet equivalent of an IRL flasher, Hannah guessed that “those that send unsolicited ones, especially to strangers, are perverts with a fetish of gaining sexual gratification when people respond to their dick pics.”

“For those guys who are sending random dick pics, I don’t know what to say leh… I think you really need some psychological help.”

Along this vein of unanswered “y r u lyk dis?”s, I think womankind can agree it’s a damn good thing the Singapore law is acknowledging we want no more unasked for lupcheong pics.

Unwanted Dick Pics

In the new Criminal Law Reform Bill read on 11 February 2019, unsolicited sexual exposure will be criminalised as “cyber-flashing”.

“Cyber-flashing” is when “images of genitalia are sent to recipients without their consent, and with the intention to cause humiliation, distress or alarm”.

Rejoice, the days of horndogs sending you unwanted dick pics may soon be over.

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*Names were changed to protect identities

I can’t count the number of times I’ve opened up my IG/FB message requests to be greeted by a hand wrapped around a penis at attention as if expecting me to give it a kiss on the head for showing up.

Often, these pictures come unaccompanied—no greeting or small talk. Zero warning. Just a disembodied, ham-fisted dick, digitally shoved in my face.

In an attempt to uncover why some men choose to become the online equivalent of a bus stop flasher, I surveyed guys who often send women unsolicited weiner pics, and asked them why.

As a way to get compliments and nudes

Kevin, 21, is the first guy I talked to. I asked him why he makes unsuspecting women look at photos of his ‘trouser snake’.

“I know that my dick is larger than average, so I guess I’m looking for compliments.” This makes sense because I send selfies to guys I’m dating all the time. They say nice things that make me feel good about myself.

He went on to explain how his friends also believe that sending women a dick pic is a surefire, low-cost method of weeding out women who are uninterested in a sexual relationship.

“Not all girls will reply positively, but those that do, you know they’re DTF. Plus, sending a girl dick pics is a way of getting them to send you nudes back.”

Some guys like Paul, 27, corroborate Benjamin’s theory. “I mass send it to a bunch of girls. It’s a numbers game. As long as you cast a wide net it’s guaranteed that at least a handful of girls will be turned on and want to hook up.”

Seeing how this science-based approach works for Benjamin and Paul, I’m almost impressed.

But I wanted to know what they did with the photos. They revealed a lot of guys have wank folders where they store the racy photos girls send them. This gives me the heebie-jeebies, but I don’t tell them that.

As a way to flirt

The next couple of guys I spoke to revealed a good portion of men use dick pics as a method of flirting. “I’ve only ever sent dick pics to someone I was in a sexual relationship with, so I knew that they’d be happy to receive it”, says Jonathan, 19. “It amps up the sexual tension.”

Stephen, who is 28, has ‘nobler’ intentions. He claims he only sends women dick pics as a response to their suggestive photos. Is this what equality is? *wipes tear from cheek*

“I don’t do it all that much, only when girls send me a sexy cleavage shot or butt picture. I don’t want them to feel like it’s a one-sided exchange, so I send a dick pic. It makes it mutual and equal.”

However, when I questioned if men thought girls liked receiving dick pics, 22-year-old Andrew’s response best summed up the difference between male and female perspectives.

“I dunno, I’d be pleasantly surprised by a random boob photo so I don’t see how it’s different.”

And that’s when the proverbial fog lifts.

The real issue here is the mismatch between male and female perspectives on unsolicited crotch shots. While it is common for both genders to exchange racy photos, women are more likely to wait until asked.

It could be because women are in a far more precarious position if these pictures are disseminated. Or that women are just less presumptuous than men.

But really, men are more prone to committing spontaneous digital sexual assault because they tend to overperceive strangers’ sexual interest. Exchanging genitalia photos seems to be part of the mating process for some men—the logic is poor, but the motivation is obvious.

How it actually makes women feel

But here’s the thing, folks. Women are almost never ‘pleasantly surprised’ by a random dick pic. Women are often traumatised, appalled, and in turn, horrified when you assault our social media inboxes with a spontaneous picture of your veiny member.

Personally, being on the receiving end of an unsolicited dick pic is uncomfortable and makes me feel objectified, violated, and disgusted. Sometimes I question myself: what did I do to bring this on?

The dick pic perpetrator has made it clear that I had no choice in whether I wanted to see their dicks. And most women I spoke to agreed with this statement.

After we’ve recovered from the initial shock, it’s likely we’ll either show the photo to the friends we are hanging out with or screenshot and forward the message to a group chat.

Sending Dick Pics

Ultimately, don’t send women photos of your skin-flute unless you know for a fact that she’ll be happy to see it. That is unless you’re prepared to be named and shamed.

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