It’s 2019, which means making the first move to ask someone out is something both guys and girls can do. Instead of fretting over how to attract your crush’s attention, get some inspiration from these Singaporean millennials who made the first move!

1. I pretended I read palms so I could hold his hand

Back when I was a junior doctor, a resident at the hospital I was interning at asked me out. We’d been flirting for a couple of months, so I knew for sure that I liked this guy and wanted something to happen between us.

We went out for drinks at a restaurant but the guy still hadn’t made a move by closing time. I happened to know the owner of the restaurant, who set up a candlelit table for us at the restaurant’s al fresco area, just so we could extend the date.

Tired of waiting for him to initiate something, I literally took matters into my own hands. I told him I knew how to read palms and offered him a reading. As I ‘read’ his palm, his thumb lightly grazed my hand and I took it as my cue to hold his hand for real.

I don’t think he minded much because we’re still holding hands one year on.

Bee, 26, doctor

2. I asked my uni classmate to travel with me

In university, I took a few classes with a guy who was always on top of his school work. I figured that if I kept close to him, his diligence would rub off on me. Outside the classroom, we got along well but didn’t see each other as boyfriend or girlfriend material.

A long break was coming up and I was itching for a holiday, but none of my usual travel buddies were available. I bit the bullet and asked him if he wanted to come along.

We found ourselves in an Airbnb a month later. As we spent more time together, I witnessed a proactive and caring side to him I’d never seen before. On top of planning our itinerary daily, he’d pop into supermarkets to buy me snacks if he noticed I was getting hungry.

He also started to look uncomfortable when I talked about other guys, something that never used to happen. By the end of the trip, I caught on that he had feelings for me and told him I felt the same.

Three years on, we’re happily in a relationship and just signed the lease for our BTO flat.

Jamie, 27, creative executive  

3.  I brought her food daily when she was sick

Before we became a couple, my current girlfriend and I were acquaintances who had the occasional drink together. Each time we hung out, we enjoyed each other’s company.

Then last year, she became sickly and I grew concerned for her health as she had a habit of skipping meals.

I ended up buying her food after work every day and taking a cab to her place to make sure she ate on time. I guess she was touched by my actions because a couple of months later, we started dating.

Adam, 26, digital marketing director

4. I asked if he wanted to have supper

My boyfriend and I first met at a New Year’s Party some time back. When the night ended, I found myself wanting to spend more time with him.

Coincidentally, the cab prices were sky-high that night and none of my friends lived on my side of Singapore. I suggested that he and I have supper first before going home, hoping booking prices would come down by then.

After supper, I checked the rates again and the cab fares were still exorbitant. He took the lead this time and we ended up at his place, talking until sunrise. That’s when we discovered we had a lot in common. This wasn’t exactly how I pictured the night would end, but it marked the start of our relationship.

Laura, 24, video producer

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5. I spotted her in the crowd at Zouk

Back when I was single, I’d hit the clubs regularly with my friends. What I thought was going to be an ordinary night at Zouk turned out to be the night I would meet my current girlfriend.

While the DJ spun his tracks and the crowd was dancing, I spotted a tall and attractive girl nearby. I inched closer and we danced together before I tried to start a conversation (albeit a muffled one). After a while, I persuaded her to give me her number.

A few days later, I texted her. What I didn’t expect was that we’d hit it off so well. We shared the same zest for life, and every date with her was filled with so much fun and energy.

It took me a long time to convince her to start a relationship with someone she met at a club, but eventually my patience paid off and we’ve been dating ever since.

Gabriel, 25, student

6. He made the first move at a rave in Bali

When my best friend and I were at the Djakarta Warehouse Project (DWP) festival last year, she helped a group of Bruneian friends take a photo. We ended up having drinks with them, and I hit it off with one of the guys because we were both super stoked for the same DJ.

He asked me for my number but I was hesitant. I wanted to enjoy the festival without worrying about replying text messages, so I gave him my Instagram handle instead. However, he replied to my Instagram Stories so incessantly that I finally gave in and asked him to text me on WhatsApp.

The festival ended months ago, but he’s still texting me daily. I guess I have his persistence and my best friend to thank for this new long-distance relationship!

Mel, 27, wardrobe stylist

Mel and her boyfriend at DWP

7. We ended up on an 8-hour date

I’m a Singapore Airlines stewardess, which means my work schedule is extremely erratic. While I was overseas, I found a match on Coffee Meets Bagel with a Singaporean guy and we bonded over university hall experiences.

He complained that what he hated most about staying on campus was how many pairs of shoes he had to bring back every weekend. Baffled and amused, I asked him out on a date because I had to see if this guy was a centipede.

In between my flights, I found some time to meet him for dinner. Somehow, dinner extended to dessert, followed by coffee at 11pm and a midnight movie afterward.

Since our date overran, I had to rush home to get ready for my flight to Brisbane straightaway. It was the first and only time I did a long-haul flight without a wink of sleep.

Two dates later, “centipede guy” asked me to be his girlfriend. Considering we’ve been dating for a few years now, the fatigue back then was definitely worth it!

Lyn, 26, air stewardess

8. I asked him for his number, now we’re married

I met my husband in church some years back. We were seated a few metres apart one Sunday and I took an interest in him immediately. Not knowing what would happen, I whispered a prayer asking God to do His thing if we were meant to be.

Not long after, I was waiting for my friend outside the ladies’ toilet when I saw him walking by. I knew we were going to be part of the same cell group soon, so I stopped him in his tracks and used it as an icebreaker. I suggested we exchange numbers, and that’s how it all started.

After we got together, I told him about the prayer I made when I saw him that fateful day. I still can’t believe the coincidence, because it happens that he did the same when he saw me too.

Kait, 30, administration manager

9. She gave me a box of chocolates

Before we became a couple, my girlfriend and I were friends who hung out occasionally. I started developing feelings for her as we began to spend more time together, but when I confessed my feelings to her, she told me she didn’t feel the same way. After the rejection, I kept my distance and we stopped talking after that.

One day, she gifted me a box of chocolates out of the blue. I was confused because she had given me the impression that I didn’t stand a chance.

Turns out, after my confession, she realised she had feelings for me as well. A mutual friend suggested that she give me a present to make her feelings known, hence the chocolates. After we sorted out how we truly felt about each other, we began dating officially and are still together.   

Tom, 25, student

10. We were each other’s first crushes

My boyfriend and I were each other’s first crushes when we were 10. As with most puppy-love situations, we grew up and remained friends. We kept the friendship going throughout secondary school, but when we went to poly, we dated different people and eventually drifted apart.

Fast forward to 2018, we finally decided to catch up for the first time in 7 years. We hung out till 2am that night and the conversation didn’t stop flowing. I found myself texting him ‘good morning’ every day, and we would talk about everything under the sun. Our frequent communication reignited sparks from 14 years ago, and I found myself falling for him again.

So one night, when he sent me home, I made him play tic-tac-toe on the foggy windows of the car. When he tried to cheat, I grabbed his hands to stop him and didn’t let go after. We shared our first kiss that night and we’ve been dating since then.

Eliza, project manager, 25

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Before there was WhatsApp, there was MSN Messenger. Before there was Facebook stalking, there was Yearbook flipping to find your crush’s picture. Before there were Instagram bios, there were ‘testimonials’ on Friendster.

Regardless of what you do, the year 2000 paved the way for ratchet first encounters. Here are 20 millennials who shared with us the worst thing they’ve done to get their crush’s attention.

Some names were changed to protect identities.

Playing mind games on social media

To gain my crush’s attention, I constantly signed in and out of MSN Messenger. Sometimes I subtly changed my MSN nickname to lyrics of some song I know she likes, hoping she’ll start a chat.
Chris, 26

I changed my ‘Last Seen’ preferences on Whatsapp to private, so others can only see me online if I’m using it. To subtly stalk my crush, I’ll make my friend scope out the situation first and get back to me on whether he’s online or not. Occasionally, I’ll put some cryptic quote on my Whatsapp status and it’ll start a conversation between us. But now the stupid update ruined everything and I can’t be ~mysterious~ anymore.
Amira, 20

I shared the annoying Facebook chain message/post of, “LIKE this and I’ll tell you if…” or “I’ll rate you” just so I could tell my crush how I feel about her and have her reciprocate my feelings. Everyone but her liked it so my plan failed.

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Sid, 21

My modus operandi is to make my social media profile have as many similar interests as my crush’s. By joining all the same Facebook interest groups as him, I’d be bound to connect with him one way or another.
Priya, 24

Bribing them with food

Even after asking my crush out twice in 3 years and being rejected both times, I didn’t give up. One day on MSN, he said, “I would date any woman who made me bacon sandwiches.” So that’s what I did. I made him a bacon sandwich, placed it in a nice lunchbox and gave it to him the next day. When I offered him my present, he stared at it blankly and asked, “What’s this?”’ I replied, ‘A bacon sandwich!’ I said, smiling. He gave me a deadpan face and told me that he was joking the previous night. Guess I got rejected again.
Angela, 22

I noticed every little detail about him such as his preference for bubble tea and doughnuts so I’d buy them for him only to have him say that I’m “mummying” him. I also went to extreme lengths to lose weight when he called me fat (e.g. having only 2 skewers of fruits for a meal and puking whatever I’ve eaten or whenever I felt fat). It definitely wasn’t healthy.
Elle, 24

Stalking them virtually and in reality

Whenever I establish my newest source of affection (i.e. a crush), I immediately get a quick background check of them of Instagram to make sure they are worthy of my time. Of course, we all know what happens when we find ourselves 164 weeks in and accidentally double tapping the photo. I swear that one second of realisation is equivocal to death, but hey, at least he’ll notice you.
Gwen, 19

I used to skateboard under my crush’s HDB block so the minute the lift opens she’ll see me.
Kenneth, 24

When bidding for electives in school, I’ll always wait for my crush to submit his options first. Then after I get my ‘intel’ from other people, I’ll “coincidentally” sign up for all the same electives.
Annadine, 18

On CCA days in secondary school, I ALWAYS left school through one particular gate even though it took me a longer time to get to the MRT station. My CCA (hockey) always ended about the same time as my crush’s CCA (water polo) and I knew that he would always be waiting for his father at the exact same spot so I’d plan my route and timing down to a T. We were from different classes and there was no chance for our paths to cross apart from this regular post-CCA moment. Suffice to say, he always noticed me and smiled at me. We became classmates two years later so there was no need to do all that any longer. I just had to come to class later than him so that he’d notice me. I was such a loser.
Amirul, 24

Bribing them with gifts

I once gave the girl I liked an iPod shuffle in Primary school. Stupid move.
Randy, 25

I used to surprise a girl I liked in school by doing weird shit like Googling ‘What day is it today’ to find out those obscure events. One of the more vivid memories was when it was ‘Poem on your Pillow’ day and I essentially wrote W. B. Yeats’ ‘He Wishes for the Cloths of Heaven’ poem and left it in her room love-letter style. Other than that, sometimes I purposely swipe Tinder in front of them to passive-aggressively check if they are into me.
John, 26

Related: 10 Signs Your Boyfriend is Using Passive-Aggression to Get His Way

Being AA AF

I noticed this guy in school staring at me a lot but I didn’t think much of it at first. However, I eventually became obsessed with him because I thought he was cute too. One day, my friend told me, “YOU WON’T GUESS WHO’S IN THE COM LAB COME NOW.” I was resistant but eventually went into the lab like “HAAY GURL HAAAY” just to attract his attention, which was really inappropriate because everyone was focused on doing work. Basically, my mind told me “play it cool, be yourself” but I did the opposite.
Siti, 22

I purposely tripped on some staircase to get my crush’s attention in the lecture theatre but all I got were bruised knees.
Kuan Yung, 21

Acting cool

I was on a date with a guy once and I was really nervous. I agreed to watch the movie ‘Hulk’ with him because I wanted to act like a cool girl who could watch action movies. But at one scene, I got caught off guard and I ended up throwing the popcorn all over him—and the people behind us. Needless to say, it didn’t work out.
Kat, 24

I made the first move by seducing him at the club with some sexy dance moves, only to realise he was my friend’s boyfriend. Oops.
Debbie, 24

Playing Sherlock by leaving clues

I once had a kiddy crush on a guy I met during a national sports competition. As he was from a different school, I could only see him during the annual meet. On one particular year, both of our schools’ sports days happened to occur on the same day at Bishan stadium, with his school’s celebration being right before mine. I was on medical leave that day but according to my friend this guy actually asked where I was.

Since then, I’d work hard every year just to make it to nationals and see him! However, back then there was no way for us to contact each other as we didn’t have handphones. So what my friends and I did was to place our neoprint pictures in the neoprint shop just in case he saw it and we somehow reconnected.
Lisa, 24

Manipulating school schedules

During recess time, I’d intentionally buy the same drink as him so that we have an unspoken connection better than Singtel 4G. I’ll also try to scope out our common breaks or rush to the canteen just so I can “casually” appear in his peripheral. I’ll also pretend to go to the toilet when I see him walk past my class through the window so that we can “coincidentally” bump into each other.
Emma, 18

A couple of months ago, my friend and I found my crush’s profile on a dating site and his bio mentioned that he liked girls with long hair. So last year when my hair was growing out I decided to keep it that way in hopes that he’ll notice; SO EMBARRASSING AND STUPID! However, I ended up liking my long hair which is why I haven’t cut it since! But that was initially the reason why I grew it out for the first time in 6 years.
Kim, 19

I got my crush’s timetable for maximum efficiency. I also bought a balloon in school for Valentine’s Day and wrote his Instagram bio on it. On the balloon, I wrote, “Please notice me… but also don’t.” I was clearly delirious and he never did notice me.
Layla, 18

Ratchet First Encounters

Our ways of attracting our crushes may seem weird/lame/embarrassing but these rabak experiences make the best stories to laugh about years down the road. Besides, these ratchet encounters with our crushes help us grow as a person and develop “thicker” skin, so we’ll know what to do if we do meet The One.

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