What Would Zula Do: My Boyfriend Won’t Go Down On Me After I Give Him A Blowjob

What Would Zula Do

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WWZD: My boyfriend won’t give me oral sex after I give him a blowjob

Submission:

I’ve been having sex with my boyfriend for almost half a year now. He always asks for a blowjob and even if he doesn’t, I’ll still do it.

However, he has never returned the favour and has only went down on me once, after me asking him, and it was only for a few minutes.

Also, I have never orgasmed during sex before and he does not seem interested in getting me off after he comes. What do I do?

—Perplexed, female, 20

Zula says

Hi Perplexed,

Try and get to the root cause of why he doesn’t seem to be into giving you oral. Is it an intimacy issue? Is he squirmy about hygiene? Was he equally as averse to going down on his ex-girlfriends?

Such questions might be embarrassing to pose but if you guys are meant to be in a healthy relationship in the long run, having this discussion not only has the potential to greatly improve your sex life but bring you guys much closer as well.

 

Some other pointers are to throw in a bit of dirty talk so as to gently nudge him towards the direction. Don’t be afraid to get vocal and let your moans flow, peppering a little “ooh, yes” over here and an enthusiastic “just like that!” over there.

Positive reinforcement will kick in and – if you make it known that it gives you pleasure – there’s a good chance he’ll want to work towards making you feel good as well.

Good luck!

—Renae

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Dear Perplexed,

It’s true that guys think with their d*cks. After you’ve sucked the juices out of him, he will be about as useless as a dead prawn.

Simply put, you have to bargain with him before he has orgasmed. And in your case, make sure he doesn’t go to the edge of glory without you, if you want to be pleased.

Would he board the Shinkansen without you? Similarly, he shouldn’t take the train to O-town, while leaving you behind.

Guys need some education to please a lady because our tools function very differently, so don’t leave sex education to just his secondary school teacher.

As they say, “If you want to go fast, go alone. If you want to go far, go together.”

—Asher

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