If there’s one thing that Singaporeans learnt from the Taylor Swift concert weekends, it is that concert proposals are here to stay.
However, before this new “trend” started in Singapore, you might recall that a year ago, during Harry Styles’ concert, one Singaporean enlisted the help of the singer to pop the question. Earlier this year, three concert-goers also pulled off proposals during Coldplay’s concerts.
Such proposals seem like the perfect way to ask someone to be their forever partner, but they might also be the nightmare of some. Below, we spoke to six Singaporean women to learn their take on concert proposals.
“I can’t deny the enchantment of being swept up in the euphoria of a concert, especially if a couple’s dream proposal involved popping the question among 55,000 fans.
The concept itself and watching another couple get proposed to is romantic. I can only imagine the nerves that must accompany such a bold move on the part of the proposing couple. Personally, I wouldn’t do it for the sake of romance ‒ I prefer my future partner to propose in a more intimate setting.
That said, I would totally plan a counter-proposal in a heartbeat; that is if we’re at a concert where I know for sure there’s going to be a song in the setlist that’s special to my partner and me. It would make a good story to tell our grandkids.”
– Isabel, 25
“My favourite concert was when I attended Mayday’s concert in 2022. It was one of the first concerts to happen after the Covid restrictions, and the vibes were amazing.
Unlike most people who find concert proposals cringeworthy, I think they are romantic.
The reason is, if both parties are huge fans of the artiste performing, it’d be very meaningful, especially if the proposal was made during their favourite songs. Furthermore, if the couple is both extroverted, I think the overall ambience at a concert would be a plus point. Imagine the mini fireworks and excited crowds cheering them on in the background.
While I’d be shocked to see a concert proposal happening IRL, I’d definitely be one of those feeling happy for them.
To those who plan on proposing during a concert, I’d say you do you! Don’t be swayed by others who find concert proposals cringeworthy.”
– Priscilla, 25
“I find concert proposals romantic because I can imagine that the singer and the songs mean a lot to the couple. It could be possible that the party proposing knows that the singer is their significant other’s favourite, and a particular song or lyrics hold a special place in their hearts that they wish to make the moment memorable.
As such, I’m pretty sure that the recipient will be able to feel their partner’s sincerity when proposed to. Even when others find the act cringeworthy, I think it is romantic because it does not matter as long as the couple is happy.
TBH, I don’t mind any type of proposal as long as it is planned by someone that I love. While I don’t prefer those that come with extravagant and big events, I would very much love the joyous occasion to be attended by my friends and family.”
– Jovin, 19
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“If my partner really knows me, he will not propose to me during a concert. Since I am a K-pop fan, the only concerts that I go to are for my bias groups, and one of them is BTS. Fans of BTS would know how hard it is to score tickets to their concerts, and I would hate to miss any moment of my bias performing during the concert.
Chances are, I would feel confused if I were ever proposed to during a concert. Moreover, I’d imagine it would be hard to hear my partner’s proposal speech among screaming fangirls.
Personally, I feel that proposals are meant to be special and intimate, and concert proposals do not align with my preference. That said, it doesn’t mean there is anything wrong with them ‒ it may suit other couples who prefer to bask in the ambience of the crowd and their favourite song being sung in the background.”
– Jou, 30
“I think concert proposals are a bit cringeworthy, especially if the proposal isn’t personalised but a copy of the proposal that everyone else has been doing. For example, the Love Story proposals at The Eras Tour.
The lack of intimacy and originality throws me off, and it feels more like a performance than a sweet declaration of love.
I believe a proposal should be a moment where the person proposing not only offers a lifetime commitment, but also intimately shares why they want to spend the rest of their lives with the person they are proposing to. If I were being proposed to, I’d definitely want to hear that, and I would also want the opportunity to accept the proposal and share my own feelings with my partner at that moment.
You don’t have the opportunity or space to do all that during a concert.”
– Sasha, 25
“Singapore is a humid and hot country, so the odds of not looking your best are very high, especially if you are at a concert venue with many others. My hair would probably be stuck to my forehead because of sweat, and my makeup could be smudged due to the humid weather in a concert venue ‒ I can’t imagine myself getting proposed to with that appearance.
While I don’t expect my partner to pull off a grand proposal, I just want to look the best when I’m being proposed to. I wouldn’t mind if the proposal happened in a restaurant or during sunset by the beach.
Once again, it boils down to how well you communicate with your partner. If you have any preference when it comes to a wedding proposal, I think it is advisable to let them know beforehand to avoid disappointment.”
– Jolene, 28
Proposing to someone you want to spend the rest of your life with is a special occasion, and picking the right venue is a significant decision. That being said, not everyone is a fan of concert proposals, so it’s important to understand our partner’s preferences before making any lifetime commitments.
Cover: Images courtesy of Jovin and Jou, source
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