Dating Bad Boys
There’s no denying dating a bad boy can be mentally draining. They’re usually emotionally unavailable and their unstable temper isn’t exactly the best quality a partner should have.
Despite their flaws, I’ve always fallen for boys who leave me on ‘blue tick’. While everyone says “I deserve better”, I do feel there are certain benefits that come with dating ‘bad boys’.
From going on wild adventures together to challenging me to think better, here are 10 reasons why I choose to be with the boy all mums tell their daughters to avoid.
1. He’ll take charge
As someone who’s indecisive, I appreciate a man who’s assertive and confident.
I’ve noticed when I date bad boys, they know what they want and stick to their decisions. We never get stuck in the constant loop of deciding where to eat or what to do.
It’s refreshing as many guys I date often give me the lacklustre response of “anything lorh” to most questions I ask.
Whether it’s trivial or life-changing decisions, a bad boy knows what he wants, and he goes all out to get it.
2. He has his own life
A bad boy will never be a clingy, call-you-every-hour-of-the-day kind of boyfriend. In fact, he can sometimes give you too much space when he doesn’t reply your text after nearly a day.
Although it can come across like he’s uninterested in your life, it’s not always true. It’s more likely he recognises the need to have separate lives and doesn’t want his life to revolve around yours.
In some ways, I’m grateful he recognises the need to have an independent life and maintains his friendships.
I too, am an independent person and knowing we’re on the same page allows me my personal space. It also makes it more special when we spend time together.
3. He teaches you patience
Bad boys are a handful. Not only do they have a stubborn streak, they’re usually impatient and hot-tempered.
When they have their eyes set on a goal, they expect results immediately, and in situations where things don’t go their way, their frustration often multiplies.
Dating a bad boy requires you to be the calm and collected one. Though he’ll try his best to control his temper and unpredictable mood swings, it can mean you have to be the mature adult.
Unless he’s violent or emotionally abusive towards you, just think of it as early parenthood training.
4. He’ll give you great sex
Perhaps it’s their irresistible charisma, or how dominant (read: confident) they are in bed, but sex is guaranteed to be an adventure with a bad boy.
If you’re a little shy or inexperienced, dating a bad boy is great as they’ll take the lead in bed. He’s definitely not awkward about sex and can help fulfil your wildest fantasies and try new ‘sexperiences’.
5. He brings out a wilder side of you
Every person has a rabak side to their personalities. For some people, it takes a few tequila shots to let loose, but for others, dating a bad boy does the trick.
Aside from having a more adventurous sex life, dating a bad boy might mean picking up a few bad habits or breaking a few rules.
But living on the wilder side shows you a whole new world you wouldn’t experience if it wasn’t for a bad boy.
After all, isn’t the human existence all about living life to the fullest?
6. He teaches you to be more adaptable
Bad boys often have a ‘YOLO’ mentality and do things on impulse.
Dating him might mean him showing up at midnight to take you on a Mcdonalds’ date and then have him not reply for the next two weeks because he’s off on an adventure to God knows where.
The fact I’m unable to dictate or predict a bad boy’s behaviour makes me anxious at times. But it also helps me realise many things in life are beyond my control.
In situations like this, you learn to step back, loosen up, and go with the flow.
7. He makes you learn to be more assertive
If you’re always the passive one, dating a bad boy teaches you to take charge. Not because you want to, more like because you have to.
When dating someone headstrong, you have to step up and fight for what you want, if you ever want things your way.
Learning how to stand up for yourself is a good trait which can bring you benefits even outside of the dating realm. You’ll become less afraid to voice your discontent if a co-worker treats you badly, or if someone tries to touch you inappropriately in a club.
8. His nonchalance helps you gain perspective
While you panic over trivial things such as MRT delays and why your eyeliner is uneven, he’ll cooly tell you there are more important things to worry about.
Though you might fume because he ‘doesn’t care about things which are important to you’, and it might not be something you want to hear at the time, you know what he’s saying is often true.
Bad boys don’t usually sweat the small stuff, and his nonchalance will make you realise how petty your concerns can be. In hindsight, most things you worry about won’t matter in five years time.
9. He challenges you to think out of the box
Bad boys often voice unpopular opinions and are unafraid to stand up for what they feel is right.
Their unique perspectives make you think and critique the way the world works, and question the need for the so-called ‘necessary rules’.
You’ll start to see the world differently because of him. Though you may disagree, he’ll constantly encourage you to form your own opinions, and not blindly follow what everyone else thinks.
10. He reminds you love is a commitment
His bad temper and selfishness can make you want to walk away when things get difficult.
But like any other relationship, choosing to love another person is a decision you have to make over and over again.
A bad boy is hard to love, but it doesn’t mean he’s beyond redemption. Despite his flaws, his willingness to try and compromise reminds you the relationship is still worth fighting for.
Relationships With A Bad Boy
While dating a bad boy can be a hell of a rollercoaster ride, the times you’ve shared will change you.
He might not be the man you BTO with, but he’ll always hold a special place in your heart. Being with him will teach you a thing or two about who you are, and that itself is an important experience as any.
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