How To Tell If A Singaporean Guy Likes You But Is Too Paiseh To Confess

How To Tell If A Guy Likes You

We all know that feeling. Is something going to happen? Are you falling into friend zone or love zone? Do your horoscopes match? Is the bubble tea he bought for you a ‘sign’? What is his true SES type? Do you see a future together?

Written by a Singaporean guy, with the help of our female experts at ZULA, these guiding lights can give a clearer future of you and potential bae.

Because as a practical Singaporean girl, you don’t want to waste your emotions on that Tinder date who might not make things happen, right?

1. He stalks you on Instagram

Does he like all your Instagram posts within ten minutes of you posting? Is he one of the first few who views your Instagram story? He has probably got your post notifications on and enjoys having interactions with you in any way.

FLFC is a sign he is deeply invested and the greatest proof of something bubbling below the surface.

Bonus points if you receive an Instagram notification of him liking your pics from four years ago.

2. He shows interest in hanging out 

Singaporean boys can be kinda hard to read. They don’t always directly ask you out like their ang moh counterparts. But okay, we gotta work with what we got alright?

If he floats up interest to see the latest Marvel movie after you mentioned how much you like Chris Evans’ abs, this is the shy Singaporean guy’s way of asking you out.

Hint: If you like him too, show that you are interested in ‘guy stuff’ to make it easier for him. Yes to superhero or action movies, no to rom-coms like The Notebook.

3. He talks about your past

Most boys are pretty dense and straightforward, they don’t usually reminisce about the past like ministers in parliament. Talking about your friendship history such as where you met, how you changed your hair colour is a pretty obvious hint.

4. He initiates Whatsapp/Telegram conversations often

Somehow he comes up with new things to talk about with you because he just wants to hear back. And when you don’t reply he continues to tell you about how his day at work went.

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Singapore guys are a practical bunch. They don’t necessarily invest time and effort if they don’t already see you as a potential BTO-application partner.

However, they may not be the best conversationalists because they don’t usually hold conversations over texts. Proof: I’ve had multiple guy friends come to me for ‘advice’ on how to keep the Whatsapp chats going.

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5. He seems happy to run into you

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There is an old movie called Serendipity, look it up. That’s him responding to how the stars determined that your lovelorn paths shall forge.

He seems pleasantly surprised when he bumps into you, and his pupils dilate like deer caught in headlights.

6. He prolongs your time together

Let’s say you hang out as friends for a movie and dinner. But when you have to leave at 9.00pm, because you have insert-generic-responsibility for tomorrow, he suggests going for ice cream instead.

When he says, “Come on lah, it’s not that late.” Honey, he has more than dessert on his mind. You, gurl, are that sweet ending he craves.

7. He notices your clothes, hair, and makeup

Usually, guys don’t give a **** about such details.

So when he compliments your orange eyeshadow or new crop top, it’s a total sign he’s been paying extra attention.

However, if he gets too much into the details like, “Wow that new gold shimmer is looking fer-reshhh! Where did you get it?” Time to move on, he probably likes guys.

8. He slides into your DMs

We are not talking about a “Hey gurl, watchu up to?” at midnight, but him showing genuine interest to your Instastories.

In this day and age of passive social media usage, most people just view your Instagram stories or ‘like’ your post.

But if he shows interest in your mundane food photo, such as, “where were you?” you might want to start thinking of names for your baby. I mean, your lunch photo is hardly that inspiring, let’s be real.

9. He shades other guys in your life

He makes fun of other guys that you talk about, always trying to one-up them as if he can do better.

While that smacks of ego, give him some space. He is tapping into his animalistic instinct as a masculine hunter-gatherer and wants to make you the queen of his tribe. The other male chimpanzees need to stay away.

10. He drunk texts you

Alcohol has a way of peeling away our natural social inhibitions; the social facade we put on to have jobs and make friends. But what lies beneath is a raw energy, which some call love.

So when the facade fades, love emerges and you are the target.

Be Sure To Check On His Reputation

So it seems that your boy has the hots for you, congratulations! If not, we are sure you will find someone better.

But even if he ticks all the boxes, here’s a precaution: F-boys are really good at playing the game and they might use the above strategies to create the illusion they are serious about you. A good way to prevent this is to ask around for his reputation.

All the best in love!

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This article was first published on 13 August 2018 and last updated on 22 December 2023. 

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