I Was In A Situationship & LDR With A Korean Rapper, Here Are Some Red Flags & Lessons I Learned

Being In A Situationship With A Korean Rapper

Let’s admit it — for many of us, dating our fave idols is merely just a delusional dream. While we scramble to attend concerts and fanmeets just to catch a glimpse of them, the idea of actually getting to know them personally isn’t exactly feasible. But for *Sarah, she found herself in a situationship with a Korean rapper, whom she was a fan of, for many years. 

However, the reality of dating a celebrity isn’t all rainbows and butterflies. Sarah revealed that the situationship came with many red flags, which resulted in her eventually ending things with him on a bad note.

This story was submitted by an anonymous contributor. *Her name has been altered to protect her identity.

The situationship

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Sarah shared that she had been a huge fan of this Korean rapper for almost four years — he was also cast on the popular Korean survival show, Show Me The Money. She had communicated with him through various fanmeeting interactions, and he eventually visited Singapore, where they met up.

They went to Mr. Stork, a rooftop bar, where they got to know each other better, and he shared with her his experiences being in the Korean hip hop industry. 

NGL, her story sounds straight out of a Wattpad fanfiction, except it was real. We can only imagine how many fangirls would kill to be in her situation with their favourite idol too. 

Lessons and red flags

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A few days later, the Korean rapper had to return to Seoul, while Sarah also returned to her hometown. Despite the long distance between them, it seemed like things were looking up for Sarah, who continued to make great progress pursuing something more with the rapper. 

“For the first two weeks, we consistently texted and called. Every day, we would update each other about our days, and I was introduced to his friends and parents as well.” 

 

But things took a turn quickly. “After a short while, he became super distant, and it happened a lot until I decided to confront him about it. He then blamed it on alcohol.” 

It was then Sarah decided to take a step back and reconsider the situationship. She thought that he would change after she confronted him, but he was still distant — “it was quite obvious that he was stringing me along”. 

Eventually, she made the tough decision to end things with him by ghosting him.

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After this experience, Sarah wanted to share the red flags of their situationship as well as the lessons she learned, hoping that others wouldn’t have to go through the same pain as she did. 

Some red flags she pointed out included his reliance on alcohol as a coping mechanism, or how he would send her pictures of himself with other girls at clubs. He also made empty promises to visit her. Within just three days of meeting, he told her “I love you” — a classic act of love bombing. 

In a piece of advice, Sarah warns readers to not have expectations, as it leads to disappointment and resentment. She also emphasises the importance of prioritising your own well-being, which helps with “setting boundaries that promote self-respect and healthy interactions”.

Lastly, don’t ignore red flags. Seeing that Sarah was able to list six red flags from this short situationship, it’s clear that you should acknowledge such problems from the beginning to protect yourself from further harm. 

Being In A Situationship With A Korean Rapper Taught This Girl To Look Out For Red Flags

While dating your idol is the dream for many, Sarah’s experience warns us to not be blinded by superficial attraction. Through her situationship with a Korean rapper, she taught us to always look at the big picture and to know when to leave a relationship, especially if it’s taking a toll on your mental health.

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